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Losing Your Grip

Posted on August 3, 2021August 1, 2021 by Dewayne Taylor

“How can you think of saying to your friend, ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.” Matthew 7:4-5

It was definitely an “I need coffee” wakeup. You know sometimes you bound out of bed like an overactive gazelle and sometimes you just sorta fall out of bed. Well, today was somewhere in between. I am an early riser but today was earlier than normal…4:00 am. It wasn’t an overactive brain but an overactive bladder. “Wakeup sleepy head. Time to rise and shine.” Yeah. Right. Sure.

I went into my man-cave to tell the Keurig coffee machine I needed help…fast. As I was getting things ready, I looked on the floor and there was a small round thing. I recognized it as one of the mementos I had on a wall displaying memories from my stint in the Air Force. It was then I looked up. There was a gaping hole in the display. A large picture frame that had been the center piece for the display was missing.

So, I stumbled around, keep in mind this is still before coffee, and started finding things. First, there was the picture frame…not on the wall where it belonged but on the floor. Also laying on the floor and on my desk where several things that I had placed on top of the frame. It was like an avalanche of memories had fallen off the wall. What in the world?

Well, here’s the deal. I am (or used to be) a fan of Command Strips. It’s a product that allows you to hang things. You simply put a sticky thing on something and then put another sticky thing on the wall, press them together and ta-da you are done. Well, apparently make that almost done. Or, maybe done for a while. Or, maybe done till it decides it is done. Regardless…the picture isn’t on the wall. Of course, there is that thing about cleaning the wall with alcohol before you stick it there. Did I do that? Hmmm. Probably not…the wall didn’t look dirty to me.

Anyway, there are a couple of things that made me think about this whole falling off the wall thing. First, I walked into the man-cave and noticed a little round medallion on the floor but didn’t see the gaping hole on the wall. Isn’t it amazing how we sometimes notice the small things and miss the giant ones? That’s what Jesus was talking about when He said we walk around with a 2×4 in our eye while telling someone they need to take care of a speck of dust in their eye. How weird is that? Or maybe not.

And then there is this whole falling off the wall thing. You see, that picture had been hanging on the wall for well over a year. The two sticky things were stuck together like white on rice. Then slowly over time they started to lose their grip. Little by little the one stuck to the wall became loose and then one day…it just fell. And when it did…it took several things with it. I don’t think it woke up and said, “Well, today is the day I’m going to fall off the wall.” Nope…little by little gravity pulled and tugged until it won.

I’ve had some pretty good failures in my life. And do you know what? Very few of them where planned. Most of them were just products of neglect. Stopped getting on the scale. Stopped exercising for a few days…weeks. Stopped having my time with God in the morning. Stopped telling my wife she hung the moon. And then one day…you just fall off the wall. You stop loving, stop believing, stop doing the next right thing. You suddenly find yourself in a hot mess. And rarely does it affect just you.

So what do you do? Well, I find that the Bible is a really good resource for avoiding the landslides of life. Jesus said in Matthew 26:41 “Watch and pray that you may not enter into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.” He says we should watch out. Look for signs that you are losing your grip. Beware of pattern changes, attitude changes. Second, pray. Yup, prayer is a big one…but maybe not like you think. Worry less about being on your knees and using big words and just tell God what is on your mind. Then, get ready, trust Him with the answer…the solution. Last…be ready to acknowledge your own weakness. It’s ok to acknowledge when our “want to” doesn’t measure up to our “gonna do” or our done. That’s why we need God. Big time.

I’m gonna put the picture back on the wall. This time it won’t be with a sticky thing. I’m gonna use a nice big screw. That way, it can’t lose its grip…the screw will do the work. And I think I’m gonna try that with me and God. I’m gonna stop trying to hold on to Him and let Him hold on to me. I bet that is a better idea. I bet I can rest in Him then. After all, He’s got me…and He’s got this.

fear, life, sovereignty of God, wisdom

Poison Ivy

Posted on August 2, 2021August 1, 2021 by Dewayne Taylor

“Can a man scoop a flame into his lap and not have his clothes catch on fire? Can he walk on hot coals and not blister his feet?” Proverbs 6:27-28

I should have been more careful. I should have known better. I have a long history of cutting firewood and being around the woods. For the better part of 17 or 18 years, wood was our primary, and sometimes only, source of heat. It all started back in LaMonte, Missouri and continued when we moved to Cobden, Illinois…in fact, that is where it really became a part of our lives. We lived in a large Victorian home and our heat was whatever was piled in the driveway. So, with the help of a very good friend named Gerry, virtually every Saturday we would go and “cut wood.

As the years went by, I learned a lot about safety in the woods. I remember the first time I used a chain saw back in LaMonte. The guys told me to be careful and never pull the saw toward you. Yeah, well, one of the first things I did was pull the saw toward me (call me a slow learner) and nick my leg. I learned about how to notch a tree, sharpen a chain and how to load and stack wood. I learned a lot. But one thing that I never paid much attention too was poison ivy. While I never intentionally rolled in it, it seemed for the most part I was one of those lucky people who it didn’t affect. Well, fast forward to a couple of weeks ago. I was wrong.

It turns out, I guess, that I was indeed lucky but not in the way that I thought. I was lucky that it never “got me” and somehow, someway, recently it did. We were sitting around the other day, and I was wearing shorts. I noticed on my left leg several (five to be exact) small red dots. I told Judy, “Look at these bites on my leg.” They were in random places, and I thought that a mosquito or two had decided to have lunch. Well, again, I was wrong.

In a very short time it became evident I had somehow, someway, gotten into some poison ivy. Those five small dots grew into narrow strips of angry, red, raised, skin and it was very apparent that what I thought couldn’t get me…did. Now as outbreaks go, this one wasn’t very bad but for a guy who never had it, for a guy who thought it wouldn’t, couldn’t get him, it was bad enough. It itched, then itched some more, and then just for fun…itched some more. So far, and notice that means it is still going on, I have managed not to scratch it, but I will be very glad when this is in the rearview mirror.

The crazy thing is I really don’t know when or where it happened. We have a little bit in our yard but even though I didn’t think I was allergic, I was also pretty careful. I hadn’t been in the real woods, but one thing is for sure…I got too close somehow, somewhere. And, because of that I have some pretty unpleasant circumstances. Maybe I wasn’t careful enough. Maybe I thought it might get you but not me. Maybe I didn’t look close enough in the flowerbeds around our yard. All that really doesn’t matter I suppose. What does matter is that it got me. It.Got.Me.

Did you know that sin, those things that God and culture both warn us about, can and will get us? Did you know that even though we think it will happen to someone else and not us…it can…it will? Did you know that regardless of how “innocent” we think we might be…the consequences are the same? Judy always told me about poison ivy. Being a garden person, she told me, “Leaves of three…let it be.” I clearly heard her but frankly, since it seemed I couldn’t get it, I just didn’t pay close attention. Now, oh yes now, I know differently. We would do well to treat sin the same way.

The Bible, in the Old Testament part, asks a really good question. In the Book of Proverbs, it asks if a man can hug fire to his chest and not be burned? Of course, the obvious answer is no, you can’t. But it turns out the writer isn’t talking about fire…he is talking about sin. Mess with sin and you are going to get burned and with the burn comes the consequences and with the consequences come misery. It is true with poison ivy, and it is true with sin.

Well, the bottom line is regardless of my long history with not getting poison ivy, I now have a new history and trust me I am going to be a lot more careful around my three-leaf adversary. Green and lush or not…it is not my friend…and neither is that thing we often run to…sin. By the way, if you stumble into poison ivy there are a few things that can help with the itch. And, if you stumble into sin, well, His grace is more than enough. Just ask the Heavenly Father and He will be more than willing to help. You might say, “He’s got this.”

Family, gratitude, life, love, loving others, priorities, Scripture, Southern born, thankful, travel

Jewel Tea

Posted on July 30, 2021July 29, 2021 by Dewayne Taylor

For this is how God loved the world: He gave His one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in Him will not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16

It was the great adventure. I don’t know what your experiences with going to grandmother’s house were like…but mine, well, it was a great adventure. Granddaddy and Grandmother lived in Gainesville, Florida and we lived on the west side of Jacksonville. And, more than occasionally, but not frequently, we would load up in our car and drive down to Grandmother’s house. It’s funny…it was never Granddaddy’s house…it always seemed to belong to her.

When we got there, we have our time of greeting and then, usually, there would be work to be done…at least for Daddy and me and our domain was the yard. Grandmother had some beautiful flowers and my Daddy loved flowers too. We would walk around the yard admiring the handiwork of our Creator and planning what needed to be done. And, before long, we would get to work. There was weeding, mowing, picking up debris left over from the last Florida “frog strangler rain” and a host of other chores. Fortunately, it wasn’t an all-day deal because there were adventures waiting.

Grandmother’s house was located on a main street but in a quiet neighborhood. From the large front porch, with large white rockers, you could sit and watch the traffic go by. If you went out the back door, there was the quiet world of the garden. Beside the house was one of those narrow side streets that you only travelled if you knew it was there. We went down that road and the blocks behind the house to collect coke bottles for the two-cent deposit. Two cents meant two pieces of penny candy…what a bargain. Besides the bottles, there was another treasure trove that we visited every time we visited Grandmother.

I remember we would go into the backyard and there was trail of sorts going through some woods. At the other end of the trail, on the next block, sat a small warehouse. Today I suppose you would call it a large storage shed. To my sisters and me it was heaven. A man had a Jewel Tea franchise and that was where he stored his merchandise. And right next to the building was a pile…a glorious pile of…stuff. It was like having our own treasure chest except there wasn’t a chest. It was all there, free, for the taking.

What was there? Well, there were all kinds of items…things for the house or for personal care. Honestly, you never knew what you were going to find…it was the great adventure. It was not uncommon for there to be candy and snacks. Now keep in mind this was in the sixties and everything was still wrapped up tight. We would have a ball pilfering through the pile. Sometimes of course there wouldn’t be anything but the anticipation of going to the Jewel Tea warehouse was so exciting. The only thing better than finding bottles and collecting our two cents each, was finding the mother lode at the warehouse.

Perhaps you can’t imagine rummaging through a pile of boxes left outside. Perhaps you can’t imagine opening some candy someone had discarded but somehow, someway, it just seemed ok and normal back then. It really was the great adventure. We didn’t have a lot and because of that we didn’t get a lot so when you could find bottles and get two cents or when you could get something for free…well, it was pretty good day.

Somehow, I missed those days…days of simplicity…days of being satisfied with little and needing less. These days we are surrounded by so much and yet today, enough never seems to be quite enough. What used to fill our cups seems now to be but a drop in the bucket. I think we have lost our way…detoured down a road of discontentment where sunrises are ignored, and a beautiful flower missed as we rush by. Love notes from our Dearest Daddy, strategically placed along our paths, go unread. We need to slow down, we need to smell the roses, we need to read the notes.

Today, this day, why don’t we make a conscious decision to find something simple and marvel in it again and why don’t we start with a simple fact. And what fact is that? It is that God so loved this broken, crazy world we call home, so much that He allowed, He sent, His Son into it, and made a promise. The promise is anyone who believes in Him can have eternal life. Think about that. Loved by God with heaven thrown in…now that’s a good day. And if you need a booster shot of “feel good,” just remember this. No matter what comes your way today…well, He’s got it. Bro. Dewayne

Family, forgiveness, Grace, gratitude, life, love, loving others, Scripture, thankful, Trials

My Friend Francis

Posted on July 29, 2021July 28, 2021 by Dewayne Taylor

A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.” Proverbs 17:17

Johnny Cash sang it. “My name is Sue…now you’re going to die.” Well, his name wasn’t Sue but it was Frances. Like Sue…it was a somewhat unusual name for a man and Frances was an unusual guy. I met Frances when I went to pastor at the LaMonte Baptist Church. The church had three deacons and they were named Leo, Francis, and Floyd. All three of them were special guys and I grew to love each one of them for who they were. I was a very young, inexperienced pastor and new at the pastoring thing. So new, in fact, that when I mowed my grass at the parsonage, across the street from the church, I would wear dress pants. I wasn’t sure if pastors were allowed to wear jeans so close to the church. They can.

So, even back in 1984, Judy loved flowers and the parsonage was woefully short in that department. In fact, I’m not sure there were any flowers in the entire yard. Well, one day Judy declared that she wanted a flower bed. She began to actually plan the where’s and how’s of the flower bed. If it would have been me, I would have grabbed some flowers, dug a hole, stuffed them in, and applied dirt. Good luck. Not Judy. She decided that the flower bed should go along the front of the house and that it needed to be raised. That means we needed to find some timbers to build up the height of the bed. Again, after a little thought, she decided that railroad ties would do the job.

Somehow, I casually mentioned to Frances that Judy wanted a flower bed. Now Frances was the go-to guy when it came to things like the parsonage. He had already led the charge in installing a brick flue so we could have a wood burner, so he was the natural choice for the flower bed. I said, “Frances, Judy would like to have some railroad ties for her new flower bed. Frances didn’t miss a beat. He said, “I’ll pick you up tomorrow at five.”

Well, sure as shooting, the next day at five, Frances pulled up in his big ole dually, white Dodge pickup truck. You know there are pickup trucks too pretty to get dirty and then there are real pickup trucks. Frances had a real pickup truck. I climbed inside and we headed toward Sedalia, the largest town nearby. I figured we were heading to the hardware store there to purchase some ties. I was wrong. You see, there was a railroad that ran parallel to the main highway. We went down the road a bit and then…Frances turned.

Yup, he turned on a small road and then immediately took a right. We had arrived at the railroad tie store, only it wasn’t a store…it was the factory. I found myself in railroad tie heaven. You see, the railroad company had recently replaced their ties and the old ones were strewn all down the rails. As far as you could see there were railroad ties. I was just amazed. I should have been afraid.

Frances said, “Preacher, how many ties do you think you will need?” Well, I told him I thought ten or twelve would be enough.” So, we started going along the tracks and selecting the best ones for the flower bed. Just like a carpenter would choose the best 2×4’s at the lumber yard, we picked the best ties. This was just awesome. And then it happened. I heard the sound of a distant train whistle.

Now I didn’t think a thing about it. I always was a bit gullible and way too trusting so I had just assumed that Frances had called the local railroad office, told them the church needed a few of their old ties and got permission to get some. I was wrong. I heard the train whistle the second time and it was decidedly closer. I noticed that Frances had picked up the pace…he was definitely moving a little faster. I still didn’t think a thing about it. I just assumed he didn’t want to be that close to the tracks when the train went by. Well, that was kind of true.

The whistle blew again and this time it must have been about a mile down the tracks and Frances said it, “Preacher, we got to go.” I did sense a bit of urgency in his voice but I kind of thought it was a safety thing. It turned out it was a bit more than that. As we got back in his truck I said, “Frances, what’s the hurry?” I was thinking we could just move the truck further away from the tracks and we could even wave at the crew as they went by. “Preacher, you don’t think they are giving us these ties, do you?” Wait. What?

Yup…I just discovered that we were stealing ties from the railroad. It wasn’t a matter of safety it was a matter of not going to jail. So, Frances cranked the engine and mashed the gas and off we went just before the train came by. In the back of the truck were a bunch of railroad ties and in the front were two guys. One was a preacher, one was a deacon, and both of them were guilty as sin. One knew all about it and the other was just learning but both were tie stealing criminals. Frances was smiling and I was wondering if I was going to jail. But somehow it all seemed like a great adventure.

Well, we got back to the parsonage, and we built the flower bed. Frances helped with that too. Years later when I would return to the church to preach, or perform a funeral, or maybe just drive through town, I would look and see the ties. I didn’t remember the sin (After all, I’m sure I confessed it. God had forgotten it and I figure I should too.) No, I remembered a crusty old deacon, but more than that, a friend who wanted to help. His way wasn’t ethical but all these years later, his willingness, his own brand of love is still lodged in my heart. The Book says, “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.”

You know there are fancy friends, and rich friends and maybe even friends in positions of power. And then there are the Frances kind of friends and that ain’t bad. Of course, if you’re gonna steal railroad ties, you definitely need the Jesus kind of friend. His specialty is forgiving when you mess up and He’s the best friend of all. He’s the kind of friend that wouldn’t have frowned or pretend He didn’t know you when He saw you in Walmart. No, He’s the “stay by your side” friend. Through thick or thin, jail or not, He would say, “Don’t worry…just rest in Me. I’ve got this.” Now that’s my kind of friend. Bro. Dewayne

Family, fear, food, forgiveness, Grace, gratitude, life, Scripture, thankful, Trials, wisdom

Off the Wagon…Again

Posted on July 28, 2021July 27, 2021 by Dewayne Taylor

But God proves His own love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:8

I sat there in the dust looking as the wagon left me behind. Ok. The truth is I have fallen off several things in life. I remember one time I was on a jet ski and fell off the back. That was mostly ok with the exception that I couldn’t for the life of me get back on. We had an above ground pool in Cobden and one day I was leaning over the edge trying to pick something up and well, before you could say, “shoot that thing” I was over the edge and gone. It was so fast that my wife Judy and daughter Becca, who were watching, didn’t even see me go. Don’t mention it to either of them…they are still laughing.

I’m going on a canoe trip with the youth of our church in a week or so and I fully expect to fall out of the canoe. I have already enlisted several people to help me get back in when I fall out and my wife Judy is prepared to do CPR. You might wonder why I know I’m going to fall out. Let’s call it destiny. Oh, and there was the time I was tubing behind a speed boat and lost my grip and my trunks. They are still laughing about that too.

My latest experience about falling off has to do with the proverbial wagon. Most of us who have ever started to exercise, or started a diet, or started back to church, or any one of a number of things, know about falling off the wagon. For me it was the food thing…again. I was so proud. Judy had found out that she was a diabetic and all of a sudden, I had some motivation to get back on the wagon…a little friendly competition. Well, I took the bull by the horns and before long, my sugar was normal, and I was twenty pounds lighter. I had a blood test and everything was just “honky dorrie”. But then it happened.

The wagon hit a big old bump and I went flying off and the next thing I knew all I could see was dust and Roy Rogers was singing, “Happy Trails to You.” And here is what I discovered…once you are off, it is hard to get back on or in. It is true with tubes, it is true with jet skis, it is true falling out of pools, it is true trying to start the church thing again, and it is true with healthy stuff. In fact, I just had to take a break and eat a couple of cookies to keep my strength up.

Well, I would ask for some advice about how to catch and climb back on the wagon but truthfully, I know what to do. You know you stop this and start that and you might even pray about it. The bottom line is I need a big old helping of want too, and I’m pretty sure it is right down the road somewhere. The nice thing about that proverbial wagon is that it does circle around the block. I probably need to buy me one of those t-shirts that say, “Before you quit remember why you started.” It’s a little late for this time but not for the next.

So, how about you? Any wagons left you in the dust recently? Anything you need to start again or stop again? Well, here’s one good piece of advice. Don’t quit trying. They say you’ve never really failed until you stop trying and just in case you have stopped believing in you…the One who made you hasn’t. His evaluation of you and your performance doesn’t depend on success or failure. His evaluation is based solely on His love for you and boy, does He love you a lot. The Bible tells us that He demonstrated or showed His love for all of us by sending and allowing His Son to die. Die.For.Us. Now that is amazing. It is just good to know that there is Someone who believes in us regardless and He will be first in line to give me and you a hand and pull us back on the wagon. You can count on Him to be there for you with a great word of encouragement. “Don’t worry,” He will say, “I’ve got this.” Bro. Dewayne

Family, life, loving others, missions, Scripture, wisdom

Can You Say That Again?

Posted on July 27, 2021July 26, 2021 by Dewayne Taylor

All Scripture is inspired by God and is profitable for teaching, for rebuking, for correcting, for training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work.” (2 Timothy 3:16-17)

Strange things happen in Africa. For the past 12 or 13 years, our church has made regular trips to Africa. We began in Niger and later moved down to Mali. The last six years or so we have been working in Uganda. Regardless of what country, you can always count on Africa to give you plenty of unusual and strange sights. So, in some ways I wasn’t surprised.

We were on an island in Lake Victoria, Uganda. On any given trip we visit at least three or four different islands offering free medical care, children’s ministries, ladies ministries and visiting the people in their huts to tell them the stories of Jesus. The point of it all is to let them hear the Good News that there is a God who loves them—a lot. It was later in the afternoon, and we were winding down for the day. The medical clinic was finishing and four or five of us men were sitting in the shade under the “front porch” of one of the buildings.

So, we were talking and like I said you see some different things in Africa, so I wasn’t surprised when my friend said, “Look, there goes a woman with a peg leg.” Well, I turned around to look and didn’t see what he was talking about. I did see a lady some distance away but couldn’t see her peg leg. I mean, the only peg legs I knew about were in Peter Pan, so my curiosity was peaked.

I turned back around but didn’t say anything. But it stuck in my mind. After ten minutes or so, I just had to ask my friend about this strange sight. I said, “Tim, did you say something about a lady with a peg leg?” His expression told me I must have missed something. He gave me a perplexing look. All he could manage was a “uh?” I said, “You know, a few minutes ago you said you saw a lady with a peg leg.” He responded with, “No. I said I saw a man carrying a stringer of fish.” Silence. Snickers. Laughter.

Yup. Somewhere in the process of the conversation what was said and what I heard were two totally, and I mean totally, different things. There was no lady with a peg leg only a guy with a stringer of fish. You are probably wondering how I got “peg leg” out of “stringer of fish.” All I can say is strange things happen in Africa. I’m glad there wasn’t a crippled lady but the idea of a peg leg like Captain Cook’s sure did intrigue me.

And do you know what? Sometimes I think this happens with God and me. I think He is saying something, and I totally miss it. Does that happen to you? I think it’s more common than we think. We think we hear Him say, “You have the right to be mad” and in fact He’s saying, “Forgive.” We think we hear Him say, “Take” and actually He was saying, “Give.” Oh, and then we thought He said, “Quit” and He was saying, “Serve.” And it just goes on and on. We hear “Leave” and He is saying, “Stay.” We hear “Go ahead” and He is saying “Stop, wait, don’t.” Seems strange things don’t happen only in Africa. Smile.

So, I’m not sure what caused the totally humorous miscommunication in Uganda. It may have been my hearing, could have been the village noise…who knows. There may not have been a fix for that, however, when it comes to hearing God clearly there is something that will really help. It is His Word. In so many situations (though I’m not sure peg legs are one of them) the Bible gives us clear guidance.

Here is one thing you can count on. The voice of God (what we think we hear God saying) will not, ever, never, contradict the Word of God. If you think you hear Him saying, “Revenge” when someone has hurt you, you probably have “Peg Leg Syndrome.” If you think you hear Him saying, “Be afraid” when circumstances are frightful, you probably have “Peg Leg Syndrome.” You get the idea.

Talking about the Word of God, Paul said that it is good for learning, good for insight about what is wrong in our lives, good for correcting us when we are wrong and good for teaching us about how to live right. The Bible is an amazing Book. It has stood the test of time and, while there are different translations, there is not a version 4.3 because God got it right the first time.

So, if you are talking with your friends and someone mentions a lady with a peg leg, you might want to ask for some clarification. And if you think you heard God say something that sounds a little not like Him, check the Book, and go to the source. Peg leg stories can be funny, but withholding forgiveness when it is ours to give, hating instead of loving, leaving too soon instead of staying…well, that can cause a lot of pain. And if you find yourself singing and living that 1974 hit “Wasted Days and Wasted Nights” it might just be a bad case of Peg Leg Syndrome. Just pull out the Book, read a little and rest in Him. He’s got this. Bro. Dewayne

Family, fear, forgiveness, Grace, life, love, loving others, Scripture, thankful, Trials

Ignored

Posted on July 26, 2021July 25, 2021 by Dewayne Taylor

Get up,” Jesus told him, “pick up your mat and walk.” Instantly the man got well, picked up his mat, and started to walk. John 5:8-9

No matter how hard I tried…he ignored me. So, I am a walker…sometimes more consistent than others but generally I walk several days a week. The habit person in me likes the consistency of taking the same route over and over. The adventure person in me likes to vary the routes that I take. The bottom line…it is a coin toss every time I walk. Regardless of which route I take, I see him frequently.

Who is he? He is one of the homeless guys here in our small town. Actually, I am only assuming he is homeless. Like I said, frequently and no matter how early, I see him riding his bike, pushing his bike, and sitting somewhere, anywhere holding onto his bike. When I stroll by, I try to be friendly. I walk by and give him a wave and a smile with a “good morning,” attached. He doesn’t respond. If you remember the story of Brier Rabbit and Tar Baby, you know when Tar Baby didn’t respond to Brier Rabbit—he got more than a little upset. Well, I think Brier Rabbit and I might be distant cousins. My thought was, “What’s up with this? Why is he ignoring me?”

Well, there were many attempts after that attempt, and it wasn’t just with him. I would try to wave, be friendly, and give a “Good morning” if we were in voice range. Almost without exception…there was nothing just a blank stare. Well, earlier this week it was the same song, same verse but this time something occurred to me…or more accurately maybe Someone spoke to me. The thought, the inner voice was this, “Dewayne, he is ignoring you because that is all he knows.” A bell went off in my head and in my heart.

I realized in that moment that to most people, these folks who live in the streets are ignored because they become invisible. Most people don’t even see them much less acknowledge them. And, I think, that once you have been ignored for so long…when you are invisible to the world around you…you stop seeing and feeling too. It becomes easy to just look, to stare until the world around disappears. And, you need to know, that it isn’t always homeless people…it can be just everyday walk-around people who have been bruised and hurt one too many times. They go to work, they function, but in reality, they stare into nothingness just trying to get by.

What are we to do? Well, first we don’t stop trying to reach out and touch those around us. Jesus was so good at seeing the invisible and loving the unlovable and do you know what? He never gave up. A story is told about a lame man who laid by a pool forever…or, at least, it seemed forever…38 years to be exact. The rumor was if you could be the first in the pool when the waters stirred, you would be healed. It wasn’t true and it really didn’t matter because he could never be first. And then…Jesus showed up.

Jesus saw him, spoke to him and asked this question, “Do you want to be well?” The man gave him the story about him and the waters. Jesus didn’t quit. He just said, “Pick up your mat and walk.” Well, the guy took the gamble, obeyed, and…he was healed…just like that. Amazing. Thirty-eight years of suffering came to an abrupt end. I guess we can’t offer the broken around us that kind of deal, but we can see, we can speak, and we can pray and when we do that…who knows what God will do?

Let me encourage you…and me for that matter…to start seeing again, to start loving again, to start making a difference, no matter how small, again. If you see someone obviously broken and you are a Jesus follower, just remember how broken you were when you met the Healer and He whispered, “I love you…I forgive you.” And as you remember, take that moment to reach out and let that person know how much God loves them and longs to forgive them. Oh, and let them know also that, “He’s got this.” Bro. Dewayne

Family, Grace, gratitude, life, prayer, Scripture, thankful

A Walk in the Park

Posted on July 23, 2021July 22, 2021 by Dewayne Taylor

Let heaven and earth praise Him, the seas and everything that moves in them.” Psalm 69:34

It was a walk in the park. No, really. You have probably heard the cliche that says, “Oh, no deal…it was a walk in the park.” The person saying that is indicating that whatever they had just done was…easy. No stress, no strain…like the old 70’s song says, “Easy like Sunday morning.” However, every once in a while, it turns out to be exactly what the words say…a walk in the park.

It was a Monday morning in middle July, and I figured it was just about time for me to get back to walking. I put on my exercise clothes (it had been a while since I had used them, so they asked me for proof of ownership) and hopped in the car to drive to the park. It was early…oh, I would guess about 5:50 in the morning. As I began my walk around the lake, I quickly realized that this was a good idea. They say that exercise is just one of those things that is good…really good…for you. It stretches things that have gotten a little stiff, clears your head and your heart, and opens your eyes.

As I walked, I had one of those ah-ha moments and realized that I was enjoying a genuinely cool morning in the middle of July. That doesn’t happen often. There was a light breeze which made the mid-sixties feel even better. As I walked around the lake, I couldn’t help but notice the greenness all around me. That was no accident. God had decided to bless us with several days of showers and the grass, flowers, and trees were all grateful—and so was I.

A little further down the path I saw a little duck family. A momma duck had hatched six eggs and her little ducklings were waddling along behind her. They were cute and I couldn’t help but smile at their cuteness. I knew it was a good day too because even the usually gruff and grouchy geese were in a good mood. They still hissed at me a bit, but it somehow seemed…friendlier. It was just about then that I started praying, well, actually talking with my Dearest Daddy. It was one of those times it seemed as natural as breathing. I talked, out loud, with Him thanking Him for all that my senses had absorbed. It was good. And then, well, it got better.

I rounded the curve around the lake heading east and there was an orange glow peeking through the trees. At first, I thought it was one of the orange tinted street lights you see around town but then I really saw it. It was one of those incredible, Southern Illinois sunrises. It was big and it was beautiful. As I walked, I was just overwhelmed with this masterpiece the Heavenly Rembrandt had given us to enjoy. It was one of His larger than normal “love notes” that seemed to say, “I love you and you can face today knowing that I am with you…no matter what.”

As I looked at the sun that morning, over and again I might add, I thought about what the Psalmist wrote in the Bible. He said “Let heaven and earth praise him, the seas and everything that moves in them.” That morning, I couldn’t have agreed with Him more. All of nature around me seemed to be declaring His glory. From the greenness of the grass, to the sound of little ducklings waddling on their small webbed feet, to the gentle breeze. They all were singing His praises and I just had to join in.

I know life can’t always be a “walk in the park” but I do know that when He walks with me…life is better. I also know that if we will just take the time to look around, we will see heavenly “sticky notes” from the One who loves us more than we can imagine. And the best part? He has a grand finale planned for us that goes on and on—and that is called heaven. Until then we have the confident assurance that He is there and that no matter what, “He’s got this.” Bro. Dewayne

Family, Grace, gratitude, life, love, prayer, thankful, travel

The End Isn’t the End

Posted on July 21, 2021July 20, 2021 by Dewayne Taylor

The heavens proclaim the glory of God. The skies display his craftsmanship.” Psalm 19:1

It seemed like the end of the road…but it wasn’t. My wife Judy and I live in Southern Illinois. I know, when you think of Illinois you think about Abraham Lincoln and Chicago but believe me there is a whole lot more to Illinois than that. The part of Illinois that we call home is south, way south. Our nook and cranny of Illinois, which is right at the Shawnee National Forest, is crammed full of natural beauty. Lush forests, rock bluffs, waterfalls, and hiking trails galore are but a few of our treasures.

Often Judy and I will get in our car and just drive. One of our favorite drives takes us up to U.S. Highway 1 heading east. The area is pure country with plenty of green scenery and rolling hills. The road ends in a small town called Cave-In-Rock. There are a few stores, a couple of restaurants and, you guessed it, a large cave in a rock. The story goes that the cave was used by river pirates. Fess Parker’s movie, “The River Pirates” was filmed there. It is really worth seeing. But there is one more thing that grabs my attention.

You see, U.S. Highway 1 ends at Cave-In-Rock and it ends by running right into the Ohio River. You are traveling down this really, nice road and all of a sudden…boom…you’re done…no more road. The end. But guess what? It’s not really the end because right there in town where the road ends, is an old fashioned, but fully functioning, ferry. It is provided free of charge for those who need to keep going to the other side…to Kentucky. It turns out, about every 15 or 20 minutes the ferry makes a run carrying people to the other side. So, what you thought was the end…wasn’t.

Today I did a funeral for a real nice lady and told the crowd gathered there that it seems when we go to cemeteries that all the headstones seem to say, “The end” but I told them that isn’t necessarily so. I told them that the end didn’t have to be the end, but rather a new beginning. I also told them about how a man, a man we shouldn’t know anything about, changed everything by dying and then coming back to life. I told them that He promised that if we would believe in Him and what He did, that He would give us life eternal, too. That means that death isn’t a dead end, but a way for us to get from here, where things are broken, to a place called heaven where they aren’t.

I know, I know. Sound a little old fashioned? Sound a little archaic? But maybe it should sound like something else…like hopeful. Maybe, just maybe it is worth checking out. Some people think things like God, heaven and hope are just crutches to lean on, but I think something different. I think they are a reality…something that each of us need to look into. When I look around at all this beauty in my part of the world, I just get the sneaking suspicion that it is too grand to be an accident. When I look up and see a zillion stars, they all seem to be saying, “Hey, God created us.” Yup, I have a feeling that it was created by Someone. Amazingly a whole chunk of the world agrees.

I hope this Grits might at least stir your interest in the hope that Jesus can give. I mean it is worth checking out since 100% of us are going to come to an end out there somewhere. Why not check it out? God can handle our doubts and accusations so don’t worry about offending Him. Go to Him with your questions and listen carefully. You might just hear a gentle whisper as He tells you He loves you and yes, “He’s got this.” Bro. Dewayne

Family, fear, life, love, Scripture, thankful, Trials

The Snake and the Girls

Posted on July 20, 2021July 19, 2021 by Dewayne Taylor

Call upon Me in the day of trouble; I shall rescue you, and you will honor Me.” Psalm 50:15

The story you are about to read is true and it may scar you forever. When our girls were young, about six and five, we lived in Cobden, Illinois. We owned a large 100-year-old Victorian home which was located on the edge of town. We had woods nearby and of course lots of flower beds. The church where I pastored was wanting to hire a guy to lead worship and work with the youth.

His name was David, and his wife was Sue. They came and stayed for the weekend, and we had them over for supper on Saturday night. After we had eaten, we were sitting around and chatting. It was getting close to bedtime, so we told the girls it was time for them to go upstairs and get ready for bed. So, because they were perfect little girls (not), off they went while we continued to visit and chat. It was just about then chaos broke out.

We heard what sounded like a herd of water buffalo coming down the stairs combined with the sound of a tornado siren going off. I looked at Judy, she looked at me as we waited to see what the girls had cooked up. All parents know that when kids are told to get ready for bed there is always a great conspiracy to not do it. It has gone on for ages. Sure enough, here they come, screaming at the top of their lungs, “Daddy, there’s a SNAKE in the bathroom! There’s a SNAKE in the bathroom!” Really, I mean give me a break. Is that the best that you have?

I try to believe my children, but this was just a little far-fetched. I started the usual parent stuff, “There’s no snake in the bathroom. You better get right upstairs and get ready for bed.” There were probably a couple of mild threats that included something about the wrath of God but all to no avail. They were sticking to their story. So, off we went to find the nonexistent snake. Whoever heard of such a thing? Snake in the bathroom. Right. Sure.

So, we all tramp upstairs, with David and Sue in tow, to see this mysterious serpent. I went first not because I was bravest but because Judy made me. I looked around and thankfully there was no snake. Then the girls gave us one more small detail. “It’s in the toilet, Daddy” they said. Right. Sure. I tentatively walked over and took a look. No snake. Yay and then one of the girls said, “Look under the seat, Daddy.” Well, by now I was sure this was a grand plan to avoid bedtime. And then I lifted the seat.

There, neatly conformed to the shape of the bowl was indeed a snake. Yes, he was only about 15 inches long but to me it looked like a giant anaconda and about that time they weren’t the only ones screaming. I dropped the seat, and we all left the bathroom to formulate a plan of attack. It involved a clothes hanger and a brave soul. I was elected. We got a clothes hanger and straightened it out. The plan was to lift the lid, push the snake into the water and flush. The snake would be sucked down the drain. Crisis solved. So, I tip-toed over to the toilet, lifted the lid and poked the snake. It fell into the water, and I flushed.

I learned three things about snakes at that moment. First, they are very buoyant. Secondly, they swim really well. In an act of desperation, I even tried to hold the snake under the water with the clothes hanger. Lesson number three. They can hold their breath for a reall, long time. There was only one thing left to do. Call Bob, our friend and neighbor. Bob was a biology teacher, so he knew about snakes. Bob liked snakes. Bob wasn’t afraid of snakes. And Bob lived right down the street. So we made the call and in a few minutes Bob came to the rescue. He assured us that it was harmless, and he reached down and picked up the snake. Bob was a little weird like that.

The girls went to bed and David and Sue went on to take the job at the church. At least they knew we obviously didn’t practice snake handling. For years…Rebecca rarely visited the bathroom without first checking under the seat. Judy and I learned to be a bit less suspicious of our girls’ bedtime antics. And Bob…well although he lives an hour away, I keep his number of speed-dial. It always pays off to have a friend like Bob.

I keep God on speed dial too. In all the craziness that night there was a lot of praying going on. And like Bob, actually even better than Bob, God is always there. He doesn’t care if it something crazy like a snake in the toilet or a pandemic in the world…He can handle it. God tells us in the Bible that when we get in trouble, when we don’t know what to do, or when we simply don’t know the answer, give Him a holler and He will come to the rescue. You know, I’m glad for friends like Bob. I’m especially glad for a Friend like Jesus. He’s never surprised when I call…never too busy…never annoyed. He just whispers, “No problem, Dewayne. Take it easy. You can rest in me. I’ve got this.” Bro. Dewayne